Essentialism

Words to remember

  • The disciplined pursuit of less.
  • Less is more.
  • If you do not prioritize your life, someone else will.
  • Design your life essentially;
  • Less but better.
  • If I did not have it, how much I would pay for it? (sunk cost)
  • Sometimes not doing is as meaningful as doing.
  • In order to have, we need to escape to focus.
  • Play doesn’t just help to explore what is essential. It is essential in and of itself.
  • Make our criteria both selective and explicit.
  • The power of a graceful “No”.
  • To really get essential things done, we need to start small and build momentum.

Enjoy the moment.

My words

  • Focus on your target, do not lose it somewhere. If you lose it, stop and retrospect long enough to find it and get it back.
  • Do not let busyness to measure the success, which is so lame.
  • Focus on few important things only (remove inessentials to improve the quality of life and word and that’s so called: less is more).
  • Asking the right question.
  • Simplify the life (less food, less talking while more retrospecting, more writing and more discussion).
  • Spare certain time (enough time) to meditate (subway in each day and Sunday each week).
  • Oftentimes, ask yourself: is that necessary and is it for the target?
  • Have a crystal clear and simple plan and then just follow making the whole work easier.
  • If that’s not the thing you need to do to achieve your target, say NO to it (protect your time and dignity).
  • Solving problems by asking the right question can be much effective.
  • Money is what? Money is how much it takes you to get it. (Educate your children by letting them work to earn the money)
  • Friends are the treasure in life; children can be friends, if you treat them as friends.
  • Explore every possible options, check them, review them and extract the essence and then you can go into them with all you have.
  • You need time to relax, wander around and think it over, if you intend to achieve something significant. (indispensable relaxing time)
  • Prove yourself by the actions and result, do not talk much instead being a good listener.
  • When you are thinking about whether it’s bad, then it must be bad and do not do/say it.
  • Always stay in the track and ask what are the requirements to achieve the target.
  • High-level sleep quality is a key to ensuring high-level contribution (naps from time to time).
  • If you cannot make it specific enough, then you should just abandon it (or make it specific enough) (avoid vague/unclear and impractical plans).
  • Never stop and quit, march forward to the target.
  • Ask yourself: what’s your plan for the next 5 years? Ask harsh questions to force the deep think to make it clear enough: motivation and inspiration are both based upon the ultimate target.
  • Brave is the elegance under pressure.
  • Reduce redundancy, extract the essence and correct your mistakes to enjoy better.
  • Spare enough time for the unknown (costly affairs).
  • Planning Fallacy: people are apt to under-estimate the time cost (be cautious with real thought - at least ten mins).
  • Coin/credits system can be wisely used to eliminate bad and encourage good.
  • Praise and acknowledgement should be direct and straightforward and concrete.
  • Routine and plan make it easier to focus on one thing only (it will take less time and energy to balance and select wasting time and energy, both of which are precious).

Why I wanna read

  • give me the experiences I have not and cannot have.
  • give new perspectives to look at the world around.
  • present me how a complicated thing can be sorted out elegantly.
  • provide me with new ways to handle people or problems.
  • offer me some interesting or thought-provoking stories that I can use to demonstrate my idea later.

You perhaps should know

When you become more closer to your target, there are more chances (opportunities) for you to select but if you lose yourself among them, you will fail badly.

Chances are gathering, selecting the best is becoming terribly hard; but if you want to achieve your target, you have to find out the most significant and focus on them.

If there are more things you need to think over, you have nothing to think over at all then you fail at everything.

There are many important things in life, but you have to select few of them to do and stick to them to make them blossom. If you do not choose to let something go, you will be forced to lose something more important (choice is not in your hands any more, treasure it when you still have it).

Say “No”

Saying “No” to the un-important is the way to show how important the thing you are now after (the bad result might be not that awful as you thought if you refused in a proper way; gaining respect by standing by your own way and live your own life).

Say “No” to senseless ‘asking for help’ which might result in your bad mood - no polite ask and no expected ‘thank you’.

Before saying “yes” to others’ requests, stop there and ask yourself ‘is there anything more important I need to do?’.

Be easy and polite to say “No”. There is no need to worry about the result, since it’s not that important to refuse anyone that doesn’t matter much in your life.

Win Big by Cutting off

If you don’t own it yet, how much would you pay for it?

Once you own something, you are inclined to think higher of it (The Endowment Effect). Similarly you are prone to think higher of yourself than you actually are.

Avoid waste, but oftentimes if you are determined to the old way, you’ll lose more than you actually need (eating for example).

Accept your failure, it’s a way to grow smarter.

Be yourself all the time: on the one hand, you will live better and more natural; on the other hand, you are then unique and can be something extraordinary.

Status Quo Bias: it exists, which does not necessarily mean it’s good. On the contrary, if it’s good, it will exist in the end.

Zero-based Budgeting: update the plan periodically based on the real requirements.

Say sorry to the rash promises and stay out of the mire in time.

Reverse Pilot: remove the unimportant without notice to check how significant it can be; if no one beware of the loss, just remove it directly.

Stay out of others’ worries

Their problems are not mine. If we treat their problems as ours, we are not helping; we are indulging. List the bad things and persons that negatively affect you (efficiency or mood), get them out of your life.

Bring forth more by Removing obstacles

What’s the real target?

How to achieve that specifically?

Is there bottleneck?

Remove the bottleneck.

Bring forth more by removing more instead of doing more.

FCS (FOCUS)

  • Fewer things done better;
  • Communicating the right information to the right people at the right time;
  • Speed and quality of decision making (practices and experiences will make it easier).